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Connecting Mind, Body And Spirit: Our Natural Way of Being

The attainment of “Body, Mind, Spirit” is not some far-out ideal only attained by eight hours of meditation a day, hours of intense daily yoga, or shaving your head and donning a monk’s robe.  It is our innate way of being.

Sometime in the early 1900’s, societies moved away from this natural state by creating an inner “split” or division of who we are as humans. The responsibility of the mind went to the government in the form of state education, our bodies offered up to the scientific and medical communities and the spirit to organized religion and  churches.

Let’s address the effects of that split within each area.

How we educate our minds.
In our modern educational institutions, the inherent wisdom of parents and family is removed from the equation. All the focus is on our mind and brains as a giant collective. There is no thought given to the unique needs of the individual’s creativity, emotions, or spirit. The cost of this neglect is a constant overriding of who we are innately. Children learn from an early age “don’t feel – just think,”  which is detrimental to our well being.

How we heal our bodies.
Doctors treat symptoms, not human beings.  If you have a problem with your liver, it’s not only the liver that needs attention, it’s the whole of who you are and the interconnectedness within your physical body as well your mind and spirit that needs to be addressed.  Let’s not forget that no two people are alike. We do need science to treat the symptom, but we should also look closer at the individual cause.  There are numerous studies that prove that our body’s biochemistry is inseparable from emotions and our energy. Our brain, glands and immune system are in constant communication.

How we connect to something bigger than ourselves.
Much of organized religion asks us to follow dogmatic belief and to completely cut ourselves off from our own internal wisdom.  Many religions ask their followers to believe that only god knows and ask us to succumb and surrender to an omnipotent being who is “higher ‘ above and separate from us, instead of teaching us to look within.  They give us instruction on how to “act in spiritual ways” rather than acknowledging that we are spirit.  Religion has put an emphasis on needing to relate, often fearfully, to God as other, instead of teaching that we are connected to, and indeed part of God.

The truth of our being is that you have all the information you need to awaken inside of you.

We’re not conditioned to talk about it, because most business models are based on invalidating and dis-empowering us in order to buy or use their services.  Yet within our core – our connectedness is there. It is underneath all the invalidation and dis-empowerment that we carry in our bodymind.

If you are looking to release the blocks of the bodymind, here are three steps to get started:body mind spirit photo

  1. Start looking at your internal talk. More than likely, most of your internal chatter is not serving you. You would never talk to a friend the way you are talking to yourself.  So inhale. Wave good-bye to the invalidation and say “Hello, validation.”  This is a process of letting go of all that old energy.
  2. When you notice you are stressed, angry etc, pay attention. Acknowledge the emotion. And STOP where you are. Yes, no matter where you are. Just say to yourself “Stop.” Then breathe five full breaths. Emotions might come up – let them. If you need to cry, great go ahead. If you are angry, just let that happen too. And breathe…
  3. Write down or think of 5 things you are grateful for and really feel them – even say them out loud.  You will quickly feel a shift in how you feeling.

This three-step process, validating your emotions, breathing deeply and harnessing the power of gratitude may feel awkward at first. In time and with practice,it will get easier and easier until it becomes second nature to incorporate these steps into your daily life. You are an amazing human being. Breathe in the essential amazing-ness of who you are. Enjoy.


It is important to create balance in your life by nurturing your whole person. Kismet Salem is an L.M.T., Somatic Trauma Resolution Therapist, Cranial Sacral Practitioner, Reiki Master, and Associated Polarity Practitioner. In this guide created especially for readers, Salem outlines her unique technique to integrate energy work with structural body therapy and somatic emotional release.

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Life Doesn’t Get Better by Chance: It Gets Better by Change

Accepting change requires letting go of how we think things should be, embracing what we have, and trusting that we will understand why change happens. Start by learning to accept the things we cannot change, changing the things we can, and having the wisdom to know the difference. Sounds familiar, doesn’t it?

We can all use more serenity in our lives, whether we pray for it or seek ways to create it from the inside out. Acceptance lightens us up by shifting those all too familiar and pesky heart-heavy feelings of resistance, and transmuting them into clarity and direction, time and time again.

Change isn’t all bad though. If you’re unemployed, and a job you’ve wanted becomes yours then change is more than welcome, isn’t it? Accepting change also triggers a series of realizations that one might not have been able to grasp without first accepting change, or life as it may be. If you’re wondering, how do we know when we are resisting change? Check in with your heart. Just as the heart sends good vibes and lets us know when we’re right on track, feelings of resistance weighs like a pressurized knot in the heart.

Vibrational cues are sent throughout our body to let us know whether consciously, subconsciously or unconsciously there are misaligned energies to pay attention to and release. If you are in a constant state of physical, mental or emotional dis-ease then you need to LISTEN UP. Your body never lies, but at times the mind can either be misleading or unable to grasp the actual energies, or undercurrent of energies, at work, so always check-in with your internal compass, your center, your heart, for the truth.

Practicing acceptance is a mindful exercise, and depending on what needs to be accepted or let go of, it can be downright elusive when we want to accept change the most. These six steps can help with accepting change peacefully:

1. Pause. Accept. Now, Be in the Moment.

It’s true, we’ve all thought about how we could’ve made different choices leading up to those tough times – but we had to have been operating altogether with a different awareness in order to do so. This means the frequency from which we were functioning in that moment had to be different. Knowing this now, do you feel more accepting of your past and present? If you notice a heightened shift in perspective, then the energy of your thoughts is shifting, opening your heart, subsiding your negative ego (while strengthening your positive ego) and tapping into a higher consciousness where acceptance and better choices are more accessible right in this very moment. Stick with it.

2. Acknowledge That Big ‘Ol Ego.

Undesirable change can be unsettling, especially when it involves matters of the heart. However, the uneasiness needn’t last for long. Once you experience acceptance, there is an undeniable energetic shift in your heart as much as a cerebral shift in perspective. It’s natural to feel pain but we needn’t suffer through it, unless masochism is your thing (totally cool if it is, no judgment here). Just realize that any kind of emotional and mental suffering is a function of major resistance to change that only our injured ego and heart can perform so well.

But, wait…there is relief! You see, the opposite is true too. Embracing change will bring you to a state of balance and upliftment. Be mindful and learn to identify the interconnectedness of the ego, its relationship to change and how this interplay mutes or expands the heart. Identifying this releases us and gives us the internal freedom that only we can initiate and cultivate, if we choose.

3. Live Honestly. Learn to Let Go.

Let’s not kid ourselves, mastering the art of acceptance is a constant work in progress that requires an honest inventory of the current status quo and making iterative improvements to better handle life’s ups and downs with strength and grace. The beauty is, once we’ve spent some time identifying and releasing what no longer serves us, we never lose sight of what we can achieve and what we’ve learned. Consider this the “Art of Getting Unstuck”. It’s a muddy process but well worth the effort once we clean ourselves up, begin to see the forest beyond the trees and live mindfully again.

4. Give Away What You Most Want.

Acceptance can be a difficult lesson to learn, especially if we have unresolved issues from childhood, such as consistently being faced with not being accepted one way or another: either by our parents, peers, or anyone who played a meaningful and crucial role in our young lives. However, the experiences we want the most – acceptance, patience, understanding, love, etc. – are the ones we must put into practice by freely giving these acts of kindness to ourselves and then others (practice makes perfect), especially during times of adversity. Easier said than done, initially, but never impossible.

5. Allow Your Character to Prevail.

As we strive to be more authentic and accepting of ourselves, people, events or circumstances, our true caliber comes into play when faced with elements we either wish to prevail or learn to embrace. The mind is a powerful, powerful tool – don’t let it mislead you. Your (re)actions should always serve to enhance your life not drain you of vitality. Be mindful of your disposition in every situation and stand in your power. If the temptation arises to close your heart and build a great energetic wall of China around yourself (I’ve been there many times, my karmic passport can show you the stamps), opt instead for this exercise: silently repeat the word ‘acceptance.’ You’ll be amazed how it instantly shifts you right to the center of your heart, the safe zone. Take flight from there!

6. Don’t Be a Turkey, Cultivate Thanks Giving.

If you haven’t been able to accept change by giving thanks for past experiences and the people involved, then the growth or realization that is required to learn and move on (ie, detach) from those experiences has yet to fully culminate the valuable lesson it brought. This leaves within you an unidentified aspect of yourself that you either aren’t aware of, don’t like, or have yet to fully understand. Understanding comes with realizing your world is 100% a reflection of you, a mirror aspect, in order to accept the deeper truths about who you are. Who you are beyond the limitations of pain and suffering is absolutely more gorgeous than any “Photoshopped” image, more powerful than all the currency in the world and more lovable than Boo the cutest dog in the galaxy (and he’s terribly cute, it’s unreal).

Change can be welcomed or unwelcomed as any experience that we had not hoped for, planned for, or somehow requires us to alter our life as we know it. If I’ve learned anything from accepting change by now it is that my inner life has greatly improved following change. If you’re seeing the same manure on different days, then freedom comes when we, at very least, recognize that patterns of self-defeating behavior do indeed repeat for our enlightenment until the message clicks and we move on.

Often times, we break patterns through repetition to align us with our true or empowered self and the life we’re meant to live. Change also serves as an exercise to make us resilient – not resistant – to it. So, the next time someone asks, “Got change?”, say ”Yes” and give them change with the consciousness that what you are gifting will indeed initiate positive change in both of your lives. If you can remember to do this consciously, then on some level you’ve accepted change as a multifaceted opportunity to create even more freedom and deeper happiness in all areas of your life. Wishing you peace of mind and heart on your journey!

These are some excellent tools to help accept change and manage stress with ease:

  • Meditation
  • Truth and Higher Teachings
  • Open Mindset: Positive, realistic and honest with an attitude of gratitude.
  • Breathing: correct and conscious.
  • Learning and Reading: Educate and entertain the ego through insight from “out there” [hello article]; eventually the insight gained will facilitate a shift at the core of who you are making you rely more on your inner wisdom.
  • Physical Activity and Music: separate or together, depending on how you feel!


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Wheel of Wellbeing: The Scientific Sanctuary for Mind, Body and Spirit

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