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Be human. Be seen. Be real. Be truth.

“The privilege of a lifetime is to become who you truly are.”
~C.G. Jung

What does it mean to live one’s life authentically?

When we drop our pretense and stop hiding behind our self-created illusionary masks, for protection from being truly seen, we can then embrace who we really hare—beautiful, powerful, creative, unique and yes… flawed.

The experience of life allows for us to evolve—grow and change and choose our path—not only over our lifetime, but in every moment. We can behave anyway we want, and be anything we want, on any given day. Why then, not do so authentically? Our humanness, is what makes us special and yet the same. We all have stories, traumas and pasts. Yet, we all deserve to not live our life carrying the weight of shame, embarrassment, judgment or fear. The baggage of our past need not be the baggage of our future.

We must remember that love is the embodiment of acceptance of self and others. Allowing others to experience us as our true selves is the ultimate gift for all involved. Presenting, and living as a false self is both unnatural and unhealthy.

When we hide from ourselves, and in the process from others, it ultimately denies us the opportunity to be totally free and unencumbered by the tiring effort of staying hidden and unseen.

“Being human” is the ultimate shared human experience. Without excuses, or disclaimers, own who you are in totality and share your authentic self with the world. The world will be better for it and so will you. At our core our genuineness is our true essence. Share it proudly and in turn, honor the power of authenticity.

Living Authentically is to choose to…

Be human. Be seen. Be real. Be truth.

Today, what can you do to own, reveal and share your true authentic self?

© 2013 Anthony J.W. Benson All Rights Reserved.


Anthony J.W. Benson is a respected transformational teacher, writer, speaker, producer and creative business strategist who has worked closely with leaders in the human potential field, including Cyndi Dale, Neale Donald Walsch, Gregg Braden, Rainbeau Mars, and Margaret Paul, Ph.D. among many other luminaries. He is the founder of Deeper Well Publishing as well as injoi Creative and injoi Music. A popular guest on many radio and television shows, Anthony has appeared on The Wisdom Channel, Blog Talk Radio, Co-Creator Network, Layers of Health, NBC, and FOX TV. He has also been featured as an authority in his field in Evolving Wellness, Essence Magazine, Black Enterprise Magazine, City Pages, The Minneapolis Star and Tribune, Edge Life, Evolving Beings, Inspire Me Today, and The St. Paul Pioneer Press. Additionally, he has contributed to many publications and books, including the “Hot Chocolate for the Mystical Soul” series, the Edge Newsaper, Miracle Journeys, Skyway News and Elephant Journal to name a few. For more information please visit: • • • •

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10 Things to Do if You Are Alone on Valentine’s Day:

‘You can search throughout the entire universe for someone who is more deserving of your love and affection than you are, and that person is not to be found anywhere.  You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.’


Valentine’s Day is just around the corner, and if you are unmarried, you are part of 50% of the American public that is likely to feel left out at this time of the year.  If you have no significant other, you join millions of Americans whose numbers continue to grow.  Despite this fact, advertisers stage massive campaigns that equate love and affection with lavishing loved ones with material things.  These campaigns increase fear and anxiety about being alone, in addition to perpetuating heterosexism and limited cultural notions about love relationships.

Here are some helpful recommendations from couples and family therapist, Joe Elliott, for building a more conscious relationship to the pressures at this particular time.

  1. Be grateful for how far you have come, reflect on your own path, and look for evidence of how you have stayed true to your values by remaining single.  Journal or sit quietly to reflect on this issue.
  1. Connect with family members; nieces, nephews, brothers, sisters, mothers, and fathers.  Spend time with those who have known you for a long time that can help provide counsel to you.
  1. Connect with friends, plan a get together and give yourself a chance to share about past relationships that you are no longer in that were unhealthy.
  1. Spend time with animals or in nature.  Spending time with a familiar pet can help us to feel needed and spending time in familiar places in nature helps us to feel embraced and less alone.
  1. Engage in meditation or yoga practice.  It will help to deal with the natural, human desire to be with someone and to develop the strength to examine it with skill and care. Contemplative practice can also help you to experience the love of something divine.
  1. Cook yourself a meal. Food is good medicine. Consider making a meal that leads you to feel a sense of comfort and nourishment.
  1. Masturbate – Get in touch with how it feels to be touched, caressed, and sexually excited so that the next time you are with a partner, you can help show them how to turn you on.
  1. Take a break from technology and advertising -give yourself an opportunity to avoid the bombardment by consumer culture that plays on our anxiety and fears about being alone.
  1. Practice self care. Get a massage, a haircut, or spend time at a spa.
  1. Take amusement at the hype. Go to a local drug store or supermarket and take delight in the fact that your affections are not being bargained for with teddy bears, helium balloons, cheap chocolate, and sappy cards- more money for the massage.

There are lots of good reasons for being single, those of which cannot be celebrated in the most conventional means.  Our culture continues to perpetuate the myth that being satisfied with our lives includes having fulfillment in a relationship.

Doing what makes you happy is obviously the best way to offer your unique gifts to the world and to live a genuinely healthy existence, and sometimes this path doesn’t lead towards long-term fulfillment in relationships.  Don’t forget that the most complex and important relationship that we have is with ourselves and that we must remain true to ourselves in order to feel whole and complete about our lives.

How have you celebrated Valentine’s solo-style? 


About Joe Elliott:    Joe received his undergraduate degree from Naropa University in Psychology and Religious Studies and his Masters in Counseling from Regis University in Denver.  He completed a Post-Graduate Certificate in Marriage and Family Therapy from The Denver Family Institute.  Joe has been a student of world religions and has practiced mindfulness for the past fifteen years.  He has also taught a course in Family Therapy to students at  Metro State University and provides consultation on Family Therapy to non-profit organizations.

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We Are Made For Love – Desmond Tutu

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“We are made for goodness. We are made for love. We are made for friendliness. We are made for togetherness. We are made for all of the beautiful things that you and I know. We are made to tell the world that there are no outsiders. All are welcome: black, white, red, yellow, rich, poor, educated, not educated, male, female, gay, straight, all, all, all. We all belong to this family, this human family, God’s family.”

― Desmond Tutu

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Take the plunge, marry yourself. Proclaim that you are fabulous!

Self Wedding 1Go on, take the plunge!

Marry someone who completely deserves your unconditional love… yourself! friends and all-round wonderful human beings Jeffrey Levin and Bonnie Powers, want to spread more love in the world, and have set out to get people to “take the plunge and marry yourself.”

Having conducted a number of self-weddings, this husband and wife team are out to grow this idea in as many ways as possible. They see the self-wedding idea as a movement that spreads happiness.  ”Love doesn’t start with the idea of waiting for the right one to complete you. Love starts with completing yourself. Realizing you are the right one,” says Powers. “The more you love yourself, the better able you are to love others.”

The Self-Wedding In-A-Box comes in a fabulous vintage-modern blush and mint colored kit with a sterling silver or 14k solid gold unisex ring designed by Levin, the ceremony verbiage, vows, and affirmation cards.  Their kit has all you need to create your own ceremony, including a self-wedding ring and vows.

I Married Me Self-Wedding In-A-Box is a genuinely inspirational practice. It reminds you, as you wear your ring, that the simplest thing you can do to make for a happier, more content life is to LOVE YOURSELF!

Help support this idea, and the campaign to raise funds on Indiegogo!

I Married Me from I Married Me on Vimeo.

Follow the Love:
Contact:Jeffrey Levin, Ring Maker: jeff at imarriedme dot com, 310.207.8899Bonnie Powers, Wedding Planner: bonnie at imarriedme dot com, 415.305.8973 


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John Lennon on Love and Fear

john lennon love and fear

There are two basic motivating forces: fear and love. When we are afraid, we pull back from life. When we are in love, we open to all that life has to offer with passion, excitement, and acceptance. We need to learn to love ourselves first, in all our glory and our imperfections. If we cannot love ourselves, we cannot fully open to our ability to love others or our potential to create. Evolution and all hopes for a better world rest in the fearlessness and open-hearted vision of people who embrace life. ~ John Lennon

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