Seven Steps to Manifest Your Soul Mate
How do we manifest a soul mate or manifest love? The concept might sound strange, but manifesting is more practical than most people think. Because the question of how to manifest or "call in love" is really a question about how the best relationships come to be. Manifesting is never about making something appear out of thin air, it’s about attracting.
The simple concept of manifesting anything is this: Become aware of how your thoughts, beliefs, and general mindset influence your experience everyday. Focus on what you desire, and attract it through what you think, say, and do. When you desire and believe something will transpire, and you align your energy toward it happening, it does. So you have to believe you can have an incredible relationship, and you must align your energy toward making it happen. Practice and follow these simple steps and you’ll get closer to finding your soul mate, perfect partner and love. By making these small adjustments in your internal process, you can make big shifts in your life.
#1 Love yourself.
This is the number one thing you can do to manifest more love in your life. And this is usually the hardest step for us to take. Yet when we practice self-love, which is our natural vibration, we are in sync with source (or spirit, or God, whatever word you prefer!) In theory, we all understand that we are supposed to love ourselves. But what does it actually mean? Take a few deep breaths and bring your attention to your heart. Take a deep inhale and exhale, and feel your breath going in and out of your chest (your heart center). Feel your feet or butt connect to the earth, and your crown connect to source or spirit. Feel the love that created nature, it's the same love that created you. Close your eyes and see if you can feel that there is love and fullness in you, and in the Earth. Can you feel that there is peace and love, right here in this moment? Can you feel a sense of connection? If you answered "yes" (even just a little bit), you've found self-love. Self-love is simply feeling your way to the essence of love that lives within you and around you. It's a resource that lives in us all, just waiting to be tapped. By feeling more self-love, you connect to the most potent attractive force there is: love, and happiness, from the inside-out.
#2 Look at your beliefs.
Do you believe that are no good women/men out there? Do you believe it’s too hard to find them? Somewhere do you believe that you don’t deserve love? When you sit down and analyze your beliefs, and wonder where they came from, you will see nothing that denies you love can possibly be true. Create a “Belief Inventory” - think about where any negative beliefs came from. Write it out to show yourself how untrue it would be, that love would be withheld from anyone. And reflect back on your “Belief Inventory” whenever you start to detour into fear.
#3 Set an intention to find true love.
People who accomplish anything great have clarity and determination in what they want - and they also practice patience and equanimity. They set their sights on something and move toward it, without wavering, but without feeling desperate or discouraged. Intentions are personal spiritual goals. They reflect what your dreams are, what you are passionate about. Setting and living your intentions allows you to focus on who you are in the moment, to recognize and live your values, and to raise your emotional energy, which in turn raises your physical energy. When you set an intention to find a flourishing relationship and you commit to yourself to moving toward it, no matter what, you’re telling the universe (or source or spirit) that you're committed to your own evolution, and all the universe will conspire to make it happen.
#4 BE what you want to create.
One of the core concepts of manifesting is that you have to feel what you want to create before it arrives. Here's why this is so important when it comes to romantic love: The purpose of a relationship is not to fill in the holes of what's missing in your life. This mentality will only lead to dependence and disappointment. The purpose of a relationship is to share your life with another person, to learn about yourself and others, and to grow even more than you could on your own. This will only happen in a satisfying way if you feel whole and happy before your partner arrives. Be the person you want to be before the relationship exists, and you are preparing yourself for a great relationship, and a great life, as well.
#5 Get clear on the type of partner you want to be with.
What are you willing to accept in someone, and what are you not willing to put up with? You need to vibrate, resonate with someone who will support you in all the ways you want to be supported. With authenticity + Alignment. This sounds so obvious, but many of us don't do this step. Who do you want to be with? What do you want the relationship to feel like? The answers to these questions will give you a good idea of who you're looking for. You have to know what you want and be able to visualize it before you can create it. I have friends who have created a vision board for what they want their partner to be like, with great success. Clarity is a powerful tool.
#6 Take Spiritually aligned action.
Confidently go in the direction of your dreams with grace and the desire for expansion. I had a girlfriend who decided to do one internet date per week until she met someone. She was determined to find her soulmate, and she set an intention to simply enjoy meeting people, to stay clear on the high-caliber partner she was seeking, and to enjoy the ride. It wasn’t easy, (she had lots of stories to tell!) but she did it. It took one year of meeting people that weren’t right for her, but she didn’t sway in her vision. And, she just celebrated her 10-year anniversary. So, set your intentions and tell a friend of them, and ask him or her to hold you to it. Again, go forward with confidence that the universe has your back, with faith instead of fear.
#7 Relax, trust and enjoy the journey. Be Patient.
Let go and allow. Clear space for the energy of the universe by smudging your space, or by burning an intention candle, and set an intention to release fear and resistance. Say out loud; “I lean into my dreams, and into the inspiration of my desires, and I surrender this desire to ___." (source, spirit, the universe.) Then sit back and admire the timing of the universe to always deliver. Make sure you’re not controlling - but allowing. The more patient you become, and the more you trust, the less you are interfering with divine guidance. You are here to have a great time. Really, you are. And while your life might not have all the things you want in it right this moment, if you are committed to, and working toward change, trust me, it's going to happen.
And, above all else, remember that manifesting is not about getting, it’s about becoming. Become the vibrational match for what you’re asking for.
Photo Credit: By me! Chris and Jenny's wedding on Wild Horse Island. Soulmates.